How to cultivate your "leader temperament"
As an enterprise boss, you have your own company and employees. First of all, you should understand that from the perspective of personality and natural person, you and your employees are equal, and there is no distinction between high and low. In this sense, you have no privileges. Even the power of "reward and punishment" in your hands must be recognized by the employees. In the end, it is unreliable. When the employees fire you, you will find that all "reward and punishment" will become useless. So, what do you use to reflect your boss's intentions? Many bosses will tell us the same answer: prestige.
Prestige is an objective social psychological phenomenon and a psychological factor that makes people willing to accept the influence of the other party. Any boss takes establishing prestige as his goal. Prestige makes employees have a heartfelt sense of belonging and obedience to the boss. It also seems to have a taste of spiritual leaders. Practice shows that when the administrative leaders and spiritual leaders of an organization coincide, the combat effectiveness of the organization will be maximized. When the two are different, ordinary people in the organization tend to be administrative leaders, and excellent people tend to be spiritual leaders.
So, how do we measure the authority of a boss? The author believes that the following "four forces" are the main signs:
The boss's orders are carried out. When the order is issued, it will be carried out. When the order is prohibited, it will be stopped. When the order is issued, it will be answered. Not only does the proportion of the staff who receive the command account for a large proportion, but also the command sensitivity is very high.
The boss should be able to become a popular role, so that employees can actively approach you, actively shorten the psychological distance, be willing to show their hearts to you and listen to your teachings.
The leaders' language, actions, manners, costumes and so on have become the ones that employees are willing to follow. Especially the boss's value orientation, mode of thinking and code of conduct will have a decisive impact on employees.
Employees gather around the boss with a sense of belonging and are willing to accept the organizational structure with the boss as the core.
On the question of prestige, most friends have a biased understanding of prestige. The following are some common misunderstandings that you must avoid when starting a business:
1. The misunderstanding of taking "persuasion" as prestige
This is actually a feudal patriarchal system. Some bosses think that prestige means that I tell you to listen, I tell you to do, and you must not violate it. They are accustomed to using power to subdue employees, and even "the cow presses its head without drinking water". If there is a slight discrepancy, the punishment measures shall be taken recklessly. This "prestige" must only be superficial. If you want to cultivate the ability of your employees to act in defiance of others, it is a good way.
2. The misunderstanding of taking "good feeling" as authority
This is a diametrically opposed view to the overwhelming "prestige". Some bosses play the role of "old man". They dare not take the risk of touching the interests of employees at all, and have reached a certain degree of accommodation for the purpose of not offending others. But good feeling is not equal to prestige. A good man cannot be the boss of a modern enterprise.
3. The misunderstanding of taking "lofty" as authority
An excellent boss must have his own advantages, but such advantages can only be concentrated on certain aspects. A friend thought that the boss should always be superior to the employees in order to establish his authority. In fact, it is unnecessary. The director of a factory in Northeast China went down to the workshop for an inspection tour and pointed out that a lathe worker had poor skills, and the worker was slightly dissatisfied. Without saying a word, the factory director put on his work clothes and got on the car bed to practice. It was really fast and good. For a moment, the onlookers were amazed. If this is the end of the matter, it can be regarded as an example of establishing authority by action. The fault lies in the words and actions below the factory director. I was probably ecstatic. The factory director clapped his chest and said: "The technology is not better than you. Do I dare to be the factory director?"? This is not bragging. As long as the car tongs are riveted and welded, as long as anyone has better technology than me, I will give way immediately. "This gentleman understands prestige as frivolous. This arrogance gives people a feeling of extreme self-confidence. Obviously, this gentleman has no idea of his work nature and role as the head of a factory. It is said that there is really a good thing that young workers want to compete with this gentleman in the future. The factory director knows that he has made a mistake and has not responded to the challenge. This matter is widely talked about in the local business circles.
4. The misunderstanding of taking "mystery" as authority
A friend quoted Confucius as saying, "It is not appropriate to be near". He believes that prestige comes from a sense of distance. A boss should appear in front of employees with a mysterious appearance. There is some truth in this friend's words. People have no sense of security and belonging to the unknown, which are the basis of prestige. In particular, when a boss is mysterious and majestic for the sake of mystery and majesty, it will appear indecent. Don't underestimate the judgment of employees. Being vague is a sign of lack of confidence for yourself, a fool for people, and never a long-term solution.
5. The misunderstanding of taking "preaching" as authority
First of all, we recognize that good verbal expression is an excellent boss quality. But just as the saying goes, more words must be lost, and more words must be discredited. Some bosses unilaterally believe that speaking more and more on various occasions will build up their prestige. A one-talk conversation is bound to degenerate into a sermon. It is not much to say, but to hit the point and move people. The person who is good at expressing his own opinions must first be a person who can make the other party willing to speak.
6. The misunderstanding of taking "obstinacy" as authority
People with shortcomings and mistakes are more likely to win the respect of others. There are many bosses who have a tendency to protect their short lives. They know that they are wrong, but they are not allowed to talk and oppose. This is a kind of "vanity" mentality. When this vanity rises to a paranoid level, it will show a kind of neurotic rigidity. In fact, this kind of "hardness" on the surface is just a manifestation of the lack of "hardness" and courage in the heart. Adler, a famous psychologist, said: "We can see whether a person is generous from the way he treats others' mistakes, and we can judge whether he is independent and strong from the way he treats his own mistakes."
We often say that "the person who can be responsible for individual behavior is a qualified person." And the person who can take the initiative to take responsibility for corporate group behavior is an excellent boss and a boss with leadership temperament.
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