Zhuge Changqing: "Disciple Rules" is a magic weapon for educating children

诸葛长青：《弟子规》是教育子女的法宝

How to educate children? Disciple Regulations is a magic weapon.

... Zhuge Changqing

样教育子女？《弟子规》是一大法宝。

……诸葛长青

How to educate children?

Zhuge Changqing believed that as long as the requirements of Disciple Regulations were met.

When parents conscientiously implement the discipline, and then educate their children to implement the discipline, it is OK.

For example, what if children do not obey?

To tell children, they must:

Don't delay parents' orders when parents respond

Parents should listen respectfully to their teaching and follow their responsibilities

Look, do children know what to do? Are you obedient?

Should children wear high-grade clothes? Should we eat good food? Should we have strict education? How can children be polite Wait, as long as it is the doubts about children's education, there are answers in Disciple Gui.

Zhuge Changqing's research found that disciple rules are the standard teaching materials for educating children and the model for educating children to be called modest gentlemen. As long as parents can seriously study disciple rules, seriously implement disciple rules, set an example and act as a good example, children will learn from their parents and become better and better.

"Disciple Regulations" is a three-character verse written by Li Yuxiu, an educator in the Qing Dynasty.

Disciple Regulations is a standard of life for schoolchildren compiled according to the teachings of Confucius, and its content is based on the sixth article of the "Chapter of Learning" in the Analects of Confucius: "Disciples are filial when they enter, respectful when they leave, sincere and faithful, love others and benevolent. If they can spare no effort, they will learn the text", which is compiled in three words, one sentence, two sentences and one rhyme. The full text consists of 360 sentences and 1080 words. The core idea is Confucian filial piety and benevolence.

Appendix: Full text of Disciple Regulation

Disciple regulation

General description

Disciple Gui Sage teaches filial piety and filial piety

If you love others and are kind-hearted, you can learn literature

Filial piety comes from entering

Don't delay parents' orders when parents respond

Parents should listen respectfully to their teaching and follow their responsibilities

It is warm in winter and cool in summer

No matter what happens, no matter what happens

Although things are small, don't be good at it

Although things are small, don't hide them privately

The best of relatives is the best of relatives

Injuries in the body cause sorrow for the family. Injuries in the morality cause shame for the family

Dear me, how hard is it to be filial

My relatives have made my voice more pleasant

If you can't remonstrate, please reply to your remonstrance

Take the medicine for your own disease first, and wait on your bed day and night

After three years of mourning, I often mourn, and my living place becomes wine and meat

The funeral ceremony is as sincere as the dead

If you go out, you will be respectful

Brother, friend, brother, respectful, brother, harmonious and filial

Don't be angry with your property

Or eat or sit and walk the elder first, then the younger

If you call someone for a long time, you will arrive when you are not there

Don't call your elders by name

When you meet a long road, you quickly move forward and bow to the long road

Riding off the horse and getting off the bus will take more than a hundred steps

The elders should not sit when they are young

It is not appropriate for elders to keep their voice low

As we move forward, we must move backward. We must be late to ask

Serve fathers as if they were fathers, brothers as if they were brothers

Sincerely

Early in the morning and late in the night

Wash and rinse in the morning

The crown must be straight, the button must be knotted, the socks must be tight and cut with the shoes

The crown clothes should be positioned so as not to be disorderly and dirty

Clothes are noble and clean, but not noble

Don't choose the right food

Don't drink or get drunk when you are young

Take a leisurely step, stand upright, bow in a deep circle, and salute

Don't step on the threshold, don't lean, don't stand, don't shake your legs

Slowly lift the curtain, don't make noise, turn wide, don't touch the edge

If there is someone in the virtual room

Don't be too busy. Don't be afraid of difficulties

Don't get close to the arena and don't ask questions about strange things

When you ask who is in the entrance hall, the sound of going to the hall will rise

I don't know who I am when asked

It is necessary to make clear that if you don't ask, you are stealing

It's not difficult to borrow a loan in time

letter

How can anyone cheat and ridicule before saying and believing

It's better to say more than to say less, but don't be sycophantic

Clever words, filthy words, and public gas should be strictly forbidden

Don't talk lightly when you see the truth

Don't promise lightly when things are wrong

Every word is heavy and comfortable, not urgent, not vague

Don't worry about yourself

To see good people is to think in unison

If people are evil, they should be introspective. If there is something wrong, they should be changed to no police

Only virtue, learning, talent and skill are not as good as people

If clothes and food are not as good as people, don't be sad

When you hear anger, when you hear praise, when you are happy, you will hurt your friends

I'm afraid I've heard of you, and I'm afraid I've heard of you

If you don't want to be named, it's wrong. If you don't want to be named, it's evil

If you can't change it, you can't hide it

Love all

All people must love heaven and earth together

The name of a man of high rank is not his appearance but his high rank

Those who have great talents expect to be convinced by adults

Don't take it personally. Don't take it lightly

Don't flatter the rich, don't be proud of the poor, don't be tired of the new

Don't disturb people when they are not busy

Don't expose people's shortcomings

A good person is a good person who knows more and thinks hard

It is a bad disease to spread evil among others

Good persuasion and virtue have built up two disadvantages

Whatever you choose, you should choose more and less

Ask yourself if you don't want to be added

If you want to complain, you will forget to complain

To treat the maidservants and servants as noble and generous as they are

If you have the power to persuade people, you will not be able to persuade them

Kindred

The same is that human beings are different, popular, and benevolent

Fruitful people are more afraid of words, not shy of color

We can be kind-hearted and have unlimited virtue

Unfriendliness and benevolence will cause endless harm to villains

Yu Li Xuewen

Who can't do it, but learn to be a literary master

But we should do our best not to learn the literature, and let our own opinions be ignorant of the truth

There are three ways to read. You need to have a message in your mind

Don't admire each other until you read this

The width is the limit, the hard work is the limit

If you have doubts, follow the notes and ask for the correct meaning

The room is clean, the wall is clean, the desk is clean, the brush is clean, the inkstone is clean

Ink mill eccentric and disrespectful

There are fixed places to read and restore the ancient books

Although there are urgent rolls and bundles, they should be repaired if there are defects

Don't cover up your intelligence and bad mind

Don't abuse yourself. Don't abandon yourself. Sages and sages can be tamed

(Zhuge Changqing: This article is based on the network information)

如何教育子女？

诸葛长青认为：只要按照《弟子规》要求就可以。

当父母的认真落实弟子规，然后教育子女落实好弟子规，就可以的。

譬如，子女不听话，怎么办？

要告诉子女必须做到：

父母呼　应勿缓　父母命　行勿懒

父母教　须敬听　父母责　须顺承

大家看，是否子女就知道自己怎么做了？是否就听话了？

对于子女该不该穿高档衣服？该不该吃好的？该不该严格教育？子女如何有礼貌？……等等，只要是子女教育的疑惑，弟子规当中都有答案。

诸葛长青研究发现，弟子规，是教育子女的规范教材，是教育子女称为谦谦君子的示范，只要当父母的能够认真研究弟子规，认真落实弟子规，以身作则，当好榜样，孩子跟着父母学，越来越好。

《弟子规》是清代教育家李毓秀所作的三言韵文。

《弟子规》是依据孔子教诲编成的学童生活规范，其内容采用《论语》“学而篇”第六条：“弟子入则孝，出则悌，谨而信，泛爱众而亲仁。行有余力，则以学文”的文义，以三字一句、两句一韵编撰而成。全文共360句、1080个字。核心思想是儒家的孝悌仁爱。

附录：《弟子规》全文

弟子规

总　叙

弟子规　圣人训　首孝悌　次谨信

泛爱众　而亲仁　有余力　则学文

入 则 孝

父母呼　应勿缓　父母命　行勿懒

父母教　须敬听　父母责　须顺承

冬则温　夏则凊　晨则省　昏则定

出必告　反必面　居有常　业无变

事虽小　勿擅为　苟擅为　子道亏

物虽小　勿私藏　苟私藏　亲心伤

亲所好　力为具　亲所恶　谨为去

身有伤　贻亲忧　德有伤　贻亲羞

亲爱我　孝何难　亲憎我　孝方贤

亲有过　谏使更　怡吾色　柔吾声

谏不入　悦复谏　号泣随　挞无怨

亲有疾　药先尝　昼夜侍　不离床

丧三年　常悲咽　居处变　酒肉绝

丧尽礼　祭尽诚　事死者　如事生

出 则 悌

兄道友　弟道恭　兄弟睦　孝在中

财物轻　怨何生　言语忍　忿自泯

或饮食　或坐走　长者先　幼者后

长呼人　即代叫　人不在　己即到

称尊长　勿呼名　对尊长　勿见能

路遇长　疾趋揖　长无言　退恭立

骑下马　乘下车　过犹待　百步余

长者立　幼勿坐　长者坐　命乃坐

尊长前　声要低　低不闻　却非宜

进必趋　退必迟　问起对　视勿移

事诸父　如事父　事诸兄　如事兄

谨

朝起早　夜眠迟　老易至　惜此时

晨必盥　兼漱口　便溺回　辄净手

冠必正　纽必结　袜与履　俱紧切

置冠服　有定位　勿乱顿　致污秽

衣贵洁　不贵华　上循分　下称家

对饮食　勿拣择　食适可　勿过则

年方少　勿饮酒　饮酒醉　最为丑

步从容　立端正　揖深圆　拜恭敬

勿践阈　勿跛倚　勿箕踞　勿摇髀

缓揭帘　勿有声　宽转弯　勿触棱

执虚器　如执盈　入虚室　如有人

事勿忙　忙多错　勿畏难　勿轻略

斗闹场　绝勿近　邪僻事　绝勿问

将入门　问孰存　将上堂　声必扬

人问谁　对以名　吾与我　不分明

用人物　须明求　倘不问　即为偷

借人物　及时还　后有急　借不难

信

凡出言　信为先　诈与妄　奚可焉

话说多　不如少　惟其是　勿佞巧

奸巧语　秽污词　市井气　切戒之

见未真　勿轻言　知未的　勿轻传

事非宜　勿轻诺　苟轻诺　进退错

凡道字　重且舒　勿急疾　勿模糊

彼说长　此说短　不关己　莫闲管

见人善　即思齐　纵去远　以渐跻

见人恶　即内省　有则改　无加警

唯德学　唯才艺　不如人　当自砺

若衣服　若饮食　不如人　勿生戚

闻过怒　闻誉乐　损友来　益友却

闻誉恐　闻过欣　直谅士　渐相亲

无心非　名为错　有心非　名为恶

过能改　归于无　倘掩饰　增一辜

泛 爱 众

凡是人　皆须爱　天同覆　地同载

行高者　名自高　人所重　非貌高

才大者　望自大　人所服　非言大

己有能　勿自私　人所能　勿轻訾

勿谄富　勿骄贫　勿厌故　勿喜新

人不闲　勿事搅　人不安　勿话扰

人有短　切莫揭　人有私　切莫说

道人善　即是善　人知之　愈思勉

扬人恶　即是恶　疾之甚　祸且作

善相劝　德皆建　过不规　道两亏

凡取与　贵分晓　与宜多　取宜少

将加人　先问己　己不欲　即速已

恩欲报　怨欲忘　报怨短　报恩长

待婢仆　身贵端　虽贵端　慈而宽

势服人　心不然　理服人　方无言

亲 仁

同是人　类不齐　流俗众　仁者希

果仁者　人多畏　言不讳　色不媚

能亲仁　无限好　德日进　过日少

不亲仁　无限害　小人进　百事坏

余 力 学 文

不力行　但学文　长浮华　成何人

但力行　不学文　任己见　昧理真

读书法　有三到　心眼口　信皆要

方读此　勿慕彼　此未终　彼勿起

宽为限　紧用功　工夫到　滞塞通

心有疑　随札记　就人问　求确义

房室清　墙壁净　几案洁　笔砚正

墨磨偏　心不端　字不敬　心先病

列典籍　有定处　读看毕　还原处

虽有急　卷束齐　有缺坏　就补之

非圣书　屏勿视　蔽聪明　坏心志

勿自暴　勿自弃　圣与贤　可驯致

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Learn from sages and carry forward virtue

Revitalizing China for the benefit of the world

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