Child education: 10 ways to make children form good habits

子女教育：让孩子形成好习惯的10个方法

amitabha. Children's education is related to family, society and the future of the motherland.

----Zhuge Changqing

amitabha.

Blessed life is limitless.

Confucius, the supreme teacher of Dacheng.

The rise of the Chinese nation is inseparable from the Chinese Dream.

The realization of the Chinese dream is inseparable from the struggle of generations of Chinese people.

The struggle of the Chinese people is inseparable from the education of teachers and parents.

Parents' education cannot be separated from reasonable and correct methods.

Zhuge Changqing saw a good article from WeChat and shared it with all parents. Thank the author of this article. He is immeasurably meritorious.

How to educate children?

Zhuge Changqing believes in two main points. The first is reasonable ways and methods, and the second is to accumulate virtue for children.

Now share the article with the predestined:

1. What are you doing when your child is doing his homework?

[Wrong practice]: While watching TV, he supervised the children and kept saying, "Write quickly." "Don't dawdle." "Don't watch TV, study hard."

[Result]: The child is unhappy: "Why can you watch TV? I can't watch it. It's unfair."

[Correct practice]: adults also read books without disturbing children, and create a strong family learning atmosphere. Parents are the best teachers for children. The learning atmosphere is very important. Zhuge Changqing suggested that parents buy more books to educate their children and more books with positive energy. Their positive energy brings positive energy to their children. Parents should read "Disciple Rules", "Three Character Classic", "The Analects of Confucius", etc.

[Results]: The children have a peaceful mind, and their minds are on learning.

2. The child is lazy, procrastinating and inattentive in writing homework. It is time to go to bed, but the homework is not finished. What would you do?

[Wrong practice]: reprimand the child: "You are so angry with me. Why haven't you finished writing? I can't do it without looking at it for a while. Hurry up! I look at you."

[Result]: The child was not worried, but still looked slowly

[Correct practice]: Say to the child seriously and calmly: "My child, homework is your own business. You should be responsible for your own business. Don't write until you finish it. It's time to go to school and explain to the teacher tomorrow." (Let the child bear some consequences of his behavior appropriately.)

[Result]: The child realized his mistake and regretted it. He thought to himself, "This is over. How can I tell the teacher? It seems that he should hurry up his homework tomorrow, or he will have to be criticized."

3. What do you do when your child watches TV all the time and doesn't sleep or do homework?

[Wrong practice]: angrily turn off the TV and yell at the children to do homework or sleep.

[Result]: The child went away unhappily. He hated you and said you were a tyrant.

[Correct practice]: calmly say to the child, "My child, it's time for you to finish your homework. If you can't finish it, you will be criticized. How long do you want to watch?" The child: "Can I watch it for another 10 minutes?" The parent: "OK, keep your word and turn off the TV when the time comes." Both sides take a step back. Zhuge Changqing's research found that children and adults have the same inner world. Don't use force to suppress children because they are young. Remember, children's hearts are the same as adults'. They all demand equality. For example, adults like praise from leaders, while children like praise from teachers and parents; Adults like cars, children like toy cars; Adults like to go out and play, while children like to play with children, Think about it. What's the difference? We should protect children's self-esteem.

[Result]: It's time for the child to turn off the TV and go to bed or do homework.

4. How do you do your child's homework?

[Wrong practice]: Angry: "Why can't you write well if it is so messy?" Even tore up the child's homework angrily.

[Result]: The child was at a loss.

[Correct practice]: Say to the child seriously and calmly: "My child, I have said that if you write untidily, you should rewrite it. Because it is untidily, the teacher can't see clearly. You see, this is a" rule "and cannot be broken, so you must rewrite it. You see, you should write in this way. My child, as long as you write better than your words just now, do you have confidence? "

[Result]: The child understands the importance of "regulations" and thinks: "It is easier and more progress than the words just mentioned." The child will be full of confidence in himself.

5. What do you do when your child fails the exam?

[Wrong practice]: reprimand the child: "You look at yourself. You can't be ashamed of your score. Who do you look at? How can they get a 100? You are stupid! I am so angry." What's more, kick the child hard.

[Result]: The child was in a bad mood. He thought to himself, "I'm finished. I'm so stupid. I can't learn well. I can't learn well."

[Correct practice]: comfort the child: "My child, I know that you are not feeling well. A failure to take an exam does not mean anything. The key is that we should find out the reason for failing the exam, and then solve it. OK, I will analyze it with you. I believe you will make progress next time." Zhuge Changqing believes that self-confidence is the key to success, so good children are praised. Praise children more, praise them more, and gently point out their problems, so that children will grow up healthily.

[Result]: The child carefully looked for the reason and thought, "I will work hard and live up to my parents' expectations. I will do it."

6. At the parents' meeting, the teacher told the child that you were criticized by the teacher. What would you do when you came home?

[Wrong practice]: As soon as you go home, you will throw your anger at your child and beat and scold him.

[Result]: The children have no confidence, either learn to be violent or timid, dare not say a word, learn to lie, and dare not tell the truth to their parents.

[Correct practice]: First tell the advantages of the child, then analyze the reasons for the deficiency, encourage the child, and believe that the child will make progress next time. Zhuge Changqing suggested that children should sum up their strengths and weaknesses every day and every week to form the habit of summarizing and improving.

[Result]: The child will surprise you!

7. What should you do when the child doesn't say hello and is impolite?

[Wrong practice]: scold the child in public: "Why are you so rude? You can't even say hello. How do I usually teach you? It's not promising."

[Results]: The child's self-esteem was greatly damaged, and he felt ashamed of himself, and his sense of inferiority came into being.

[Correct practice]: Give the child a step down: "My child is a little embarrassed, and it will be better slowly. He is usually very polite." Take a polite example. amitabha. Zhuge Changqing believes that children need face as well as adults, need more education, and also need to protect children's self-esteem. Occasionally, children are rude and can be educated seriously after going home.

[Result]: The child knew that he was wrong, and thought: "This time he did not do it well, next time he must do it well, and he should not let his parents down."

8. The child asked a question, you won't, what will you do at this time?

[Wrong practice]: Unhappy: "Don't ask blindly. Just do your study well. I don't know what to think every day."

[Result]: The child thought to himself, "Alas, it's boring. He always says that he is tired of learning. If he doesn't ask, he won't ask.

[Correct practice]: Say happily to the child: "My child, you can ask such a difficult question, which proves that you have used your brain. It's good. But I won't either. Let's study together, OK?"

[Result]: The child is very happy. He will persevere when he encounters problems in the future. He must study and understand.

9. What do you do when your child doesn't get up in the morning and doesn't get up even when he or she calls?

[Wrong practice]: Angry: "Why can't you pay for it? You'll be late!" Give the child two slaps, and then whine and hurry to find clothes for the child.

[Result]: It will be the same next time.

[Correct practice]: calmly say, "My child, I will call you once. If you don't get up, you will be late and criticized. This is your own business. You can handle it yourself." The child didn't get up in time, didn't eat breakfast, and was late. Zhuge Changqing, proper punishment measures can make children have memory. In addition, it is recommended to tell a positive energy story for a few minutes before going to bed every night (for example, correct mistakes and get better and better, and parents can also make up their own stories). Before going to bed, say "good night" to your child.

[Result]: Get up at the next call!

10. All kinds of methods have been used. What if the child doesn't obey?

[Wrong method]: depressed, angry, quarrelling, complaining, how did I have such a bear child?

[Results]: nagging, scolding and beating children every day, the contradiction between parents and children became deeper and deeper, and children became more and more disobedient.

[Correct practice]: Parents should do more good deeds and accumulate virtue for their children. For example: vegetarianism, planting more trees, helping the poor, helping the poor students, helping the beggars, voluntary blood donation, donating temples and Buddha statues, helping to print scriptures, donating to the poor in the west, repenting their sins and vowing to do good deeds on behalf of their children, releasing life to return to their families and children who do not obey the enemy creditors, leaving the bitter and happy immediately, and giving food to their families and children who do not obey the enemy creditors, leaving the bitter and happy immediately Buddhism chants the name of Buddha to return to the disobedient enemy creditor of his family and children, who left Kudele immediately, and recites the name of Tao Te Ching to return to the disobedient enemy creditor of his family and children, who left Kudele immediately, and so on.

[Result]: The child is getting better and more obedient.

阿弥陀佛。子女教育，关系到家庭、关系到社会、关系到祖国未来。

---- 诸葛长青

   阿弥陀佛。

   福生无量天尊。

   大成至圣先师孔子。

   中华民族的崛起，离不开中国梦。

   中国梦的实现，离不开一代代中华儿女的奋斗。

   中华儿女的奋斗，离不开老师和家长的教育。

   家长的教育离不开合理正确的方法。

   诸葛长青从微信中看到一篇好文章，分享给天下父母。感恩这篇文章的作者。他功德无量。

   子女教育，如何教育？

   诸葛长青认为两个要点。一是合理的方式方法，二是为孩子积德。

   下面把文章分享有缘者：

   1.孩子正在写作业时，您在干什么？

   [错误做法]：一边看电视一边监督孩子，嘴里不停叨叨：“写快点。”“别磨蹭。”“不准看电视，好好学习。”

   [结果]：孩子不高兴：“凭啥你就能看电视，我就不能看，真不公平。”

   [正确做法]：大人也看书，不打扰孩子，营造浓厚的家庭学习气氛。父母是孩子最好的老师。学习氛围很重要。诸葛长青建议父母多买一些教育子女的书籍、多买一些正能量的书籍，自己的正能量给孩子带来正能量。父母要看《弟子规》、《三字经》、《论语》等。

   [结果]：孩子心态平和，心思都在学习上。
    2.孩子写作业磨蹭、拖拉、不专心，该睡觉了，作业却没写完。您会怎么做？

   [错误做法]：训斥孩子：“你气死我了，怎么又没写完，我一会儿不看着都不行，快点写！我看着你。”

   [结果]：孩子并不着急，依然慢慢悠悠看

   [正确做法]：严肃地、平静地对孩子说：“孩子，写作业是你自己的事，你要对自己的事负责，没写完不准写了，该睡觉了，明天自己去学校跟老师解释吧。”（适当地让孩子承担自己的行为带来的一些后果。）

   [结果]：孩子意识到自己的错误，很后悔，心里想：“这下完了，怎么跟老师说呀，看来明天写作业得快点了，不然还得挨批。”
    3.孩子一直看电视，不睡觉也不写作业，您怎么做？

   [错误做法]：怒气冲天地把电视关掉，吼叫着叫孩子去写作业或睡觉。

   [结果]：孩子满肚子不高兴地去了，心里恨你，说你是暴君。

    [正确做法]：平静对孩子说：“孩子，你该写作业了，如果写不完会挨批。你还想看多久？”孩子：“我再看10分钟行吗？”家长：“行，说话算数，到时间就关电视。”双方各退一步。诸葛长青研究发现，孩子和大人内心世界是一样的，不要以为小孩子年龄小，就武力压制他们。记住，孩子的内心和大人一模一样。都是要求平等的。譬如：大人喜欢领导表扬，小孩喜欢老师和父母表扬；大人喜欢汽车，小孩喜欢玩具汽车；大人喜欢外出游玩，小孩喜欢小伙伴游玩.....，仔细想想，有什么差别？要保护孩子自尊心啊。

   [结果]：时间到了，孩子主动关电视，去睡觉或写作业。
   4.孩子作业写得潦草，您怎么做？

   [错误做法]：发火：“怎么写得这么乱，你就不能写好点？”甚至气的把孩子的作业撕了。

   [结果]：孩子茫然，不知所措。

   [正确做法]：严肃地、平静地对孩子说:“孩子，我已经说过了，写不工整要重写，因为不工整，老师看不清楚，你看，这是“规定”，不能破坏，所以你必须重写了。你看，你应该这样写字（讲述写字规范，横平竖直，大小一致。）。孩子，你只要写得比你刚才的字有进步就行（和自己比），有信心吗？”

   [结果]：孩子懂得“规定”的重要性，心里想：“比刚才的字有进步，容易。”孩子会对自己充满信心。
   5.孩子考试不及格，您看到成绩单后怎么做？

   [错误做法]：训斥孩子：“你看你，考这么点分，你也不嫌丢人？你看人家谁谁，人家怎么就能考一百？你笨死了！气死我了。”更有甚者使劲踢孩子几脚。

   [结果]：孩子心情坏到了极点，心里想：“我完了，我这么笨，学不好了，再怎么学也学不好。”

   [正确做法]:安慰孩子：“孩子，我知道你心里也不好受，一次没考好不代表什么，关键是我们要找出没考好的原因，然后解决它，好不好，我和你一起分析一下。我相信你，下次一定会有进步。”诸葛长青认为，自信心是成功的关键，所以，好孩子是夸奖出来的。多赞美孩子，多夸奖孩子，同时柔和的指出孩子的问题，这样孩子就会健康成长。

   [结果]：孩子认真地找原因去了，心里想：“我要努力，不辜负爸爸妈妈的期望，我一定行。”

    6.家长会上，老师告孩子状、您挨老师批评了，回到家中您会怎么做？

   [错误做法]：一回家就把气撒在孩子身上，对孩子又打又骂。

   [结果]：孩子没任何自信，要么学会暴力，要么胆小，一句话不敢说，学会撒谎，不敢和父母说真话。

   [正确做法]：先把孩子的优点讲讲，然后分析不足的原因，鼓励孩子，相信孩子下次一定会有进步。诸葛长青建议，应当让孩子每天、每周总结自己的优点、缺点，形成持总结改进的习惯。

   [结果]：孩子会给你惊喜的哦！
   7.孩子见人不打招呼、没礼貌，这时您该怎么做？

   [错误做法]：当众训斥孩子：“你这孩子怎么这么没礼貌？连问好都不会，我平时是咋教你的，没出息。”

   [结果]：孩子的自尊心受到很大损伤，觉得无地自容，自卑感油然而生。

   [正确做法]：给孩子台阶下：“我孩子有点不好意思，慢慢就好了，他平时也挺有礼貌的。”举个有礼貌的例子。阿弥陀佛。诸葛长青认为，孩子和大人一样要面子，要多教育，也要保护孩子自尊心。孩子偶尔没礼貌，可以回家后严肃教育。

   [结果]：孩子知道错了，心想：“这次没做好，下次一定做好，不能让父母失望啊。”
   8.孩子问了个问题，您不会，这时您会怎么做？

   [错误做法]：不高兴：“别瞎问了，把学习搞好就行了，每天不知道想点啥。”

   [结果]:孩子心里想：“哎，没劲，总说学习学习，烦死了，不问就不问。”从此，遇到难题一概略过，不求甚解。

   [正确做法]：高兴地对孩子说：“孩子，你能问这么难的问题，证明你动脑筋了，不错。可是我也不会，咱们一起研究研究吧，好吗？”

   [结果]：孩子心里很高兴，以后遇到问题一定锲而不舍，非研究明白不可。
   9.孩子早上不起床，怎么叫都不起床，这时你会怎么做？

   [错误做法]：发火：“你怎么还不起？要迟到了！”顺手打两巴掌，然后，一边发牢骚、一边手忙脚乱地给孩子找衣服穿衣服。

  [结果]：下次依旧。

  [正确做法]：平静地说：“孩子，我就叫你一次，如果你不起，就会迟到，会挨批，这是你自己的事，你自己处理好。”孩子没及时起床，没吃早饭，还迟到了。诸葛长青，适当的惩罚措施，可以让孩子有记性。此外，建议每晚睡觉前，讲一个几分钟的正能量的故事（譬如改正错误，越来越好，等父母也可以自己编故事）。睡觉前，要和孩子说“晚安”。

  [结果]：下次一叫就起床！
   10、各类方法都用了，孩子还不听话怎么办？

   [错误办法]：郁闷、生气，吵架，发牢骚，我怎么生了这么熊孩子？

  [结果]：天天唠叨、骂孩子、打孩子，父母和子女矛盾越来越深，孩子越来越不听话。

  [正确做法]：父母多做善事，为孩子积德。譬如：吃素、多植树、救助贫困、自助贫困学生、救助乞丐、义务献血、捐建寺庙佛像、助印经书、捐助西部贫穷、代替孩子忏悔罪业并发愿行善积德、放生回向自己家人和孩子不听话的冤亲债主离苦得乐立刻超生、施食回向自己家人和孩子孩子不听话的冤亲债主离苦得乐立刻超生、念佛号佛教回向自己家人和孩子孩子不听话的冤亲债主离苦得乐立刻超生、念道号道德经回向自己家人和孩子孩子不听话的冤亲债主离苦得乐立刻超生等等。

   [结果]：孩子慢慢变好，越来越听话。

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Introduction to Zhuge Changqing: Zhuge Changqing, the inheritor and promoter of traditional Chinese culture, is willing to "learn from sages, promote virtue, revitalize China and benefit the world" together with people with the same ideals in the world.

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Zhuge Changqing's Chinese Dream

Learn from sages and carry forward virtue

Revitalizing China for the benefit of the world

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诸葛长青简介：诸葛长青，中国国学传统文化传承弘扬者，愿与天下志同道合者一起“学习圣贤、弘扬善德、振兴中华、造福世界”。

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