Mystery of fate: never complain or complain

命运玄机：永远不要发牢骚、不要抱怨

amitabha. Good fortune comes from a good attitude, and good attitude comes from right knowledge and right view.

-----Zhuge Changqing

Nanwu Master Sakyamuni Buddha.

Namo Amitabha.

Blessed life is limitless.

Confucius, the most holy of all.

In life, everyone wants to have a good fate.

However, in the face of life's setbacks and tests, many people are troubled and unable to let go.

Don't you know that the good fortune lies in your own hands.

Confucianism, Buddhism and Taoism all teach people to stop evil and do good and accumulate virtue.

Zhuge Changqing once shared some famous sayings of some intelligent languages to the predestined:

The Supreme Lord Laojun said in his "Chapter of Supreme Sensation" that there is no way to disaster or good fortune, but people call themselves.

Lao Tzu's Tao Te Ching said: "Heaven has no relatives, and always with good people.".

The Buddhist scripture says: Do not do all evil and do all good.

The Book of Changes said: A house of good deeds must have Yuqing; A house that accumulates evil will suffer.

Confucianists say that good is rewarded with good, and evil with evil. It is not time for failure to repay.

Life in the world is like a busy spider. There are many troubles and pains in the busy life.

Don't you know that many troubles and pains in life are caused by yourself:

Zhuge Changqing shared an article about adjusting the state of mind with the predestined. This article reminds people to be positive in thinking and energy, and not to complain or say anything first:

1、 You should not "complain after being frustrated"

Zhuge Changqing: Amitabha. Life in the world is to experience all kinds of trials and tribulations. Don't complain when you encounter difficulties. It is useless to complain, and it will affect your mood. In fact, it is normal to encounter difficulties and setbacks in life.

Buddha said that there are eight hardships in life. Human suffering is only one of eight kinds of pain, don't you believe it? Compare yourself with the "eight bitter": "birth, old age, disease, death, begging, hatred, hatred, love and separation, and the five yin are flourishing".

You can't escape from one of the troubles you encounter by looking at the eight hardships. Most people's pain and annoyance is the Buddha said that the eight sufferings are "impossible to seek".

If you encounter setbacks in life and have troubles in your heart, Zhuge Changqing suggests that those who are destined to have a chance can look at the "Four Instructions of Liaofan" more. After reading it, you will be suddenly enlightened and understand the real cause of fate. amitabha. My dear friend, don't live in complaint, look up, there are many scenery waiting for you in the distance

If you are alive, it is impossible to be smooth. When you are frustrated, many people like to think nonsense. For this reason, under the constraints of pessimism, it is easy to make neurotic wild guesses. Let's call the speech in this state nonsense. Maybe for yourself, it is to vent, but for the listener, it will produce inexplicable pressure, and you will feel that you are confused. For this reason, after being frustrated, the best attitude to life is not to vent, but to self-examine and objectively analyze the reasons for your frustration. Remember, in this world, it is the self that can save oneself, and what others can do is persuasion. Mao Zedong said: "Too much complaining can prevent heartbreak, and it is better to look at the long scenery.". Don't say that the water in Kunming is shallow, and fish watching is better than Fuchun River. Learn to calm your mind. Everything has its own cause.

What should I do if I feel upset? Zhuge Changqing suggested that when you are worried, stop thinking immediately and do more good deeds. You can buy birds and fish to set free, help beggars, give alms, set up a blog online to publish good articles, and encourage help people with the help of the Internet. Ha ha, for a few days, your mind will be better. If you don't believe it, try it.

2、 You should not "envy others for gossiping"

Zhuge Changqing: Amitabha. Why do people envy others? Most of them are caused by their repeated crimes. If you don't learn the wisdom of Confucianism, Buddhism and Taoism, and don't see through life, and always think about "money, color, fame, food, and sleep", you will be miserable, and you will be jealous of other people's wealth and good luck.

Close the door and often think about yourself. Don't talk about others. If you are inferior to others, you should immediately reflect on yourself. What are your shortcomings? What are the other disadvantages?

Zhuge Changqing suggested that those who are destined to learn more Buddhism, Taoism and Confucianism, and look at the "Three Generations of Cause and Effect", "Tao Te Ching", "Four Precepts of Liaofan", "Disciple Regulations", etc., to dispel their jealousy.

Inner jealousy is a stink that many people carry. In addition to being acerbic, at least so far, I haven't found what benefits jealousy can bring to the body and mind. The most obvious manifestation is hatred of being an official and hating the rich. It's really unnecessary. First of all, ask yourself, what will happen if you become an official one day? What will happen if I have money? Look at how many people in the world are talking indiscriminately about officials and rich people. I really have the ability to make myself an official and a pile of money. I hope you can use your conscience, power and strength to save more people around you who need help.

Zhuge Changqing once saw an article written by someone who said very well:

When you are psychologically unbalanced, you can go to three places to have a look, and then you will not be able to compete:

First, go to the hospital and see those patients. What else can you compare with jealousy?

The second is to go to the crematorium to see those who cry and those who die. What can't be put down?

Third, go to the Martyrs Cemetery to see those who have sacrificed for the motherland. What else can't be put down for selfishness?

3、 You should not "complain when you are ignored"

Zhuge Changqing: Amitabha. It takes ten years to sharpen a sword to become a great weapon. If no one pays attention to you, you need to work hard. Work hard and hone yourself. You are shining gold. One day, you will shine in the world. My dear friend, don't worry, give full play to your strengths, make use of your strengths and avoid your weaknesses, and keep improving. You will have a bright future. Come on.

Remember, in this world, the people who really don't ignore you are because they care about you. Once they don't care about you one day, you are really nothing in their eyes. For this reason, we should be grateful to those who value you. For those who ignore you, it may be because you hurt them, or because you haven't done enough, and others don't need to care too much about your feelings. For this reason, it is useless to complain after being ignored by lovers or colleagues, but to show them the spirit of desperate Sanlang

4、 You should not "talk crazy when you are affirmed"

Zhuge Changqing: Amitabha. On the way of life, we should always remember to be modest and prudent, and guard against arrogance and rashness. In this way, you will get more knowledge and more opportunities. Look at the sea, because it is as open as a valley, it can embrace all rivers, and it will be magnificent. When the sea becomes the sea, it has boundless power.

When you have a successful career, a prosperous official career, a wide range of financial resources, a leap in learning Buddhism, and superior wisdom, many people will praise you, saying that you are excellent, and so on. Amitabha, at this time, you must remind yourself of humility and caution. Mao Zedong said that modesty makes people progress, and pride makes people lag behind. This is the law of heaven and earth.

Others' affirmation of you is that you have really done well in a certain field. The world needs to praise you. But don't be arrogant and lose yourself because of others' affirmation of you. Excessive crazy talk will only make more people hate you and stay away from you. Remember, besides your own efforts, there are also many people's support to help you succeed. I believe that smart people understand the truth that water can carry a boat but also can wreck it.

5、 You should not "resent your parents for making angry remarks".

Zhuge Changqing: Amitabha. Maybe your parents didn't care about you, didn't pay attention to you, and didn't give you money and house. You may be angry inside. Dear friend, after reading the following words, you will understand your parents' heart. First, when your parents gave birth to you, it means that you have boundless merits and virtues, which can repay you immeasurably; Second, parents are also human beings. As long as they are human beings, they have shortcomings. You should understand that your parents, like you, grew up from ignorant teenagers. Maybe they don't have much knowledge than you. You should understand them. Third, parents also have their own advantages and disadvantages. You should learn to be tolerant.

Because father is heaven and mother is earth. If you hate your parents, you hate heaven and earth. Amitabha, your good fortune, fortune, and official fortune have gone. If you ever resent your parents, repent immediately, and then honor your parents. Take time to read "Disciple Rules" more to understand how to honor parents and relatives. come on.

Reference for this article: Life Intelligence Network

阿弥陀佛。好命运来自于好心态，好心态来自正知正见。

----- 诸葛长青

   南无本师释迦牟尼佛。
   南无阿弥陀佛。
   福生无量天尊。
   大成至圣孔子。

   人生在世，人人都想有好命运。

   可是面对生活的挫折考验等，很多人就烦恼纠结，无法释怀。

   岂不知，好命运就在自己手里。

   儒教、佛教、道教，都是教育人止恶行善、行善积德。

   诸葛长青曾经把一些智慧语言的一些名言分享给有缘者：

   太上老君《太上感应篇》中说：祸福无门、惟人自召。

   老子道德经上说：天道无亲、常与善人。

   佛经说：诸恶莫作众善奉行。

   易经说： 积善之家，必有余庆；积恶之家必有余殃。

   儒家说：善有善报，恶有恶报，不是不报，时候未到。

   人生在世，就像忙碌的蜘蛛，忙碌中，很多烦恼痛苦。

   岂不知，很多人生烦恼痛苦都是自己惹来的：

    诸葛长青把一篇关于调整心态的文章分享有缘者，这篇文章提醒人们要正思维、正能量，不发牢骚、不说过头话等：

   一、不应该“受挫之后发牢骚话”

   诸葛长青：阿弥陀佛。人生在世，本来就是经历各种苦难考验。碰到困难，不要发牢骚。发牢骚一是没用，二是会影响自己心情，实际上，人生遇到困难挫折是正常。

   佛说人生有八苦。人的苦恼，只不过八种痛苦之一，不信？你自己对照“八苦”对比一下：“生、老、病、死、求不得、怨憎会、爱别离、五阴炽盛”。

   你对照八苦看看，你遇到的烦恼肯定逃不出其中一种。多数人的痛苦烦恼是佛说八苦之“求不得”。

   如果遇到人生挫折，内心有烦恼想不开，诸葛长青建议有缘者可以多看看《了凡四训》，看了之后，你会豁然开朗，明白命运的真实原因。阿弥陀佛。亲爱的朋友，不要在抱怨牢骚中生活，抬起头，远处有很多风景等着你呢......

   活着，就不可能一帆风顺，当受挫的时候，很多人喜欢胡思乱想，为此，在悲观情绪的制约下，容易出现神经质般的胡乱猜测，姑且把这种状态下的言语叫做说胡话，或许对于自己来说，就是发泄，但对于聆听者来说，会产生莫名的压力，而且会觉得你胡搅蛮缠。为此，受挫之后，最好的处世态度不是发泄，而是自我检讨，将自己受挫原因进行客观的分析。记住，这个世界上能够拯救自己的还是自我，别人能做的只是劝解。毛泽东说：牢骚太盛防肠断，风物长宜放眼量。莫道昆明池水浅，观鱼胜过富春江。学会平和自己的心态，万事万物各有因缘啊。

   心情烦恼怎么办？诸葛长青建议有缘者，当你烦恼的时候，立刻停止思考，去多做善事，可以买鸟鱼放生、可以救助乞丐、可以做一做施食，可以网上建立一个博客发布好文章，可以借助网络，多鼓励帮助人，呵呵，持续几天，你的心态就好了。不信，你就试试吧。

    二、不应该“嫉妒别人说闲话”

   诸葛长青：阿弥陀佛。人为何嫉妒别人？多是自己累世罪业导致的。如果没有学习儒释道智慧，没有看透人生，内心里总想着“财、色、名、食、睡”，就会痛苦不堪，就会产生妒忌别人的荣华富贵、吉祥如意等思想。

   闭门常思自己过，闲谈莫论他人非。如果自己比别人不行，要立刻反思自己，还有哪些不足？还有哪些缺点？

   诸葛长青建议有缘者，可以多学些佛法、道法、儒法，看看《三世因果经》、《道德经》、《了凡四训》、《弟子规》等，可以化解自己的嫉妒心。   

    内心的嫉妒是很多人携带的臭毛病，除了尖酸刻薄，至少到目前为止，我还真没发现嫉妒能够对身心带来怎样的好处，最显著的体现是仇视做官的，仇视有钱的，真的没必要这样子，首先先问一下自己，假如自己某天做官了会怎样？有钱了会怎样？看看尘世中多少人在不分青红皂白的对当官、有钱人议论纷纷。真有本事，也让自己官一把，钱一堆，但愿到时候，你可以用良知和权力和实力去拯救身边更多需要帮助的人。

   诸葛长青曾经看到有人写过一篇文章，说的很好：

    当你心理不平衡，可以去三个地方看看，看了之后你就不会攀比了：

   一是去医院看看，看看那些病人，还有什么可以攀比嫉妒的？

   二是去火葬场看看，看看那些哭泣的人、看看那些死去的人，还有什么放不下的？

   三是去烈士陵园看看，看看那些为祖国牺牲的人，还有什么自私自利放不下的？

   三、不应该“被忽略时说怨话”

   诸葛长青：阿弥陀佛。十年磨一剑，才会成大器。如果没人重视你，说明你还需要精进加油。好好努力，磨练自己，你就是发光的金子，总有一天，会闪耀世界。亲爱的朋友，别着急，发挥你的长处，扬长避短，持续精进，必会前途光明，加油。

   记住，在这个世界上，真正不忽略你的人是因为他们在乎你，一旦某天不在乎了，你在他们眼里还真什么都不是，为此，要感恩那些重视你的人。对于忽略你的人，或许是因为你伤了他们，或许是因为你做的还不够，别人没必要太在意你的感受。为此，不管是被爱人或同事忽视之后，抱怨是没有用的，而是拿出拼命三郎的精神，强大给他们看.

    四、不应该“被肯定时说狂话”

   诸葛长青：阿弥陀佛。人生路上，要时刻记住谦虚谨慎、戒骄戒躁。如此，你才会得到更多知识，得到更多机缘。你看那大海，因为虚怀若谷，才能够海纳百川，才会磅礴气势。当大海成了大海，就具备了无量无边的力量。

   当你事业有成、官运亨通、财源广进、学佛飞跃、智慧超群，很多人就会对你说一些赞美的话，说你好棒啊，很厉害等等，阿弥陀佛，这个时候，一定要提醒自己谦虚谨慎啊。毛泽东说：谦虚使人进步，骄傲使人落后。这是天地的规律道理啊。

   别人对你的肯定，是你在某个领域确实做的很棒，这个世界需要表扬的言语，但不要因为别人对你的肯定而狂妄自大、迷失自我，过分的说狂话，只会让更多人讨厌你、远离你，记住，成全你成功的除了自己的努力，还有很多人的扶持，水能载舟亦能覆舟的道理，我相信聪明人都懂得。

     五、不应该“怨恨父母说气话”。

    诸葛长青：阿弥陀佛。或许你的父母曾经不关心你、不重视你、没有给你金钱房子，你或许内心生气。亲爱的朋友，看了下面这些话，你会理解父母的心。一是父母生下你，就是无量无边功德，够你回报无量劫；二是父母也是人，只要是人就有缺点，你要理解，你的父母也是和你一样，从懵懂少年成长起来的，或许还没有你的知识多，你要理解他们。三是父母也有自己的优点缺点，你要学会包容啊。

   因为父亲是天，母亲是地，如果你怨恨父母，就是怨恨天地。阿弥陀佛，你的福报、财运、官运等就跑掉了。如果你曾经怨恨父母，那就立刻忏悔，然后好好孝敬父母。抽时间，多看看《弟子规》，理解如何孝敬父母亲人。加油。

       本文参考资料：人生智慧网络资料

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Introduction to Zhuge Changqing: Zhuge Changqing, the inheritor and promoter of traditional Chinese culture, is willing to "learn from sages, promote virtue, revitalize China and benefit the world" together with people with the same ideals in the world.

(Zhuge Changqing: zhuge8031@163.com ）

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Zhuge Changqing's Chinese Dream

Learn from sages and carry forward virtue

Revitalizing China for the benefit of the world

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诸葛长青简介：诸葛长青，中国国学传统文化传承弘扬者，愿与天下志同道合者一起“学习圣贤、弘扬善德、振兴中华、造福世界”。

（诸葛长青：zhuge8031@163.com）

Zhuge Changqing mailbox：

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