Parents must read 2: Disciple's filial piety is the root of family happiness

父母必读2：弟子规孝道是家庭幸福根源

Parents should take the lead in filial piety and learn discipline well, which is the guarantee of family happiness.

----Zhuge Changqing

What is the key to family happiness?

The root of family happiness is filial piety.

A family can only be harmonious if it has filial piety.

If a family has good filial piety, and the family members actively do good deeds and do more good deeds for the benefit of society, then the family is a very rich and auspicious family.

The Confucian "Filial Piety", "Disciple's Rules", the Buddhist "Di Zang Ben Wang Jing", and the Taoist "Taishang Induction" all talk about the importance of filial piety.

Filial piety is the root of family.

Those who honor their parents will be rewarded;

Only those who respect their parents can take off their careers.

Of course, those who silently contribute to the frontier defense and the people are all great filial piety, because they extend their filial piety to the world. They regard their parents in the world as their own parents and are also great filial piety.

Look around. Those who are happy, rich and rich are all good at filial piety.

Zhuge Changqing believes that it is very important to be a parent in the family and take the lead in filial piety.

Parents should set an example for their children, take the lead in respecting the elderly, and children will follow and learn filial piety.

Brothers and sisters should unite with each other and be filial to their children. It is also filial piety. If parents are happy, the family will be better.

Zhuge Changqing studied the traditional culture and believed that all people who have the ability to succeed have come from a filial family.

Through the ages, people who respect their parents have made great achievements.

Zhuge Changqing recommended the parents of the world to take the lead in learning the Disciple Rules and taking the lead in filial piety.

It is recommended that you read the books and videos of Liu Shanren, Wang Shanren, Chen Dahui, Cai Lixu and Zhao to learn the key points of filial piety. Read more stories and books such as Disciple Gui, the Supreme Emperor's Induction, the Twenty-four Filial Piety, and the Four Commandments of Liao Fan.

The original name of the "Disciple Rules" is "The Book of Discipline", which is known as the "Treasure Book of Childhood Upbringing". Its predecessor is the "Primary School" of Zhu Xi, a great scholar in the Song Dynasty. Later, Li Yuxiu, a scholar in the Qing Dynasty, absorbed the essence of the "Primary School", and described in detail in the "Analects of Confucius • Learning Chapter" that "when a disciple enters, he is filial, respectful, sincere and trustworthy, loves people widely, and is kind-hearted; when he has spare efforts, he will study literature" as the center The rules of conduct that should be observed in receiving objects and learning were compiled into the "Xumengwen", which was later renamed "Disciple Rules" by Jia Cunren of the Qing Dynasty.

This book is short and concise, with 1080 words, 360 sentences, 113 things, one sentence in three words and one rhyme in two sentences. It is catchy and is the best reading material for enlightenment and correction, evil prevention and sincerity, personality and mellow family style. He summed up the Chinese traditional family rules, family instructions and family education in a short sentence. As long as a child learns the Disciple Rules well, he has a reason to behave and treat others.

Why is it effective to learn the Disciple Code? It is because it attaches importance to the education of virtue and life, and it conforms to the law of moral education.

The first chapter of "Disciple's Rules" talks about "filial piety when entering", which is to teach children to start with filial piety to their parents, then to care for the people around them, and then to love the country and people. This order is reasonable and consistent with moral education. Zhuge Changqing suggested that you look around and see those who are rich and lucky, mostly those who respect their parents.

There is a sentence in "University" that is particularly reasonable: "If you know what you want to do first, it is a shortcut." That is, everything you do has its own order. If the order is reversed, the result will be completely different. The law of education is first of all moral education, not the cultivation of knowledge and technology. The Book of Rites · Learning Records put forward that "the founding of the nation and the people, teaching first". In the ancient education system, the education of the Tao, namely the education of being a person, is at the core, which is of great significance.

"Disciple Regulations" is as famous as "Three Character Classic" and "Hundred Family Names". Parents are children's first and even lifelong teachers. The quality of parents directly affects the degree of parents' support for children's education and school work. Good family education is the cradle of children's growth, the foundation of school education and social education, and the supplement of school education. Therefore, the role of parents in the family is very important. Therefore, it is very important for Disciple Regulations to enter the family.

The core of Disciple Regulation is the word "filial piety", which is the key to cultivate children's love, filial piety, respect and sincerity. Zhuge Changqing suggested that parents should demonstrate their filial piety and be filial to their children. In this way, their children will be filial.

Fasten the base. Expertise and perseverance. One way to go deep is to grasp the "Disciple Rules". Excellence is to keep improving. Every time you read and explain, you will have different experiences.

The people who really understand the Disciple Rules will certainly run the family, and the same is true for enterprises.

When listening to the "Disciple Regulations", we should follow the text and put down our own views and opinions, and build up our confidence in ancient sages and sages. When listening to the scriptures, you should understand that you are a student. You should follow the text and be modest, always modest and benefit from it.

The child's first teacher is parents, parents, not teachers.

Children's respect is important, love is important, and filial piety is important.

Change yourself first, then change your family, change your business, and change your school. Love is to happiness oneself first, then others; Hate is to torture yourself first and then others. The most loss-making business in the world is hate, and the most loss-making business in the world is love. I hope we all really have that love. Take the teacher's words and the ancient sages' words in mind, enrich ourselves first, and then enrich others. Always ask yourself, never ask others, and always remember that example is better than precept.

How to write "fate" of fate? The upper part is a personal character, the lower part is a horizontal character, and the lower part is a kowtow, which means that once a person kowtow, his destiny will change, and his destiny is in his own hands. But "with good intentions, say good words, do good deeds, and be good", life is really up to you, and happiness is really up to you. Kowtow is respect. Once a person kowtow, his fate will change. The path of his career is full of noble people. It is really respect for everyone, everything and everything.

Disciple Regulations is the foundation of family education.

What is family education? It's not Olympiad math, not English, not tutoring, not tutoring materials. Family education is teaching by words and deeds. Taking morality and filial piety as the foundation and learning self-management is the core of family education. Disciple Regulations is the knowledge around us and the foundation for learning the culture and education of ancient sages and sages. There are many daily norms of conduct that can guide and guide children to learn the truth of life.

It doesn't work just to read and recite the Disciple's Rules. To be able to do it, every sentence should be implemented, and we should stick to it all our lives; Learning Disciple Rules is like building a building. This is the structure and steel frame of the building. Learning other classics is the decoration of the building. Therefore, to learn from Disciple Gui, we should really believe in his importance, deeply understand and really do it, not only do it on the surface, but also make the building structure strong and lasting for the future generations; The Confucian principle of children's life can be established in the Disciple Rules. For parents and children, Disciple Regulations is a guide to life order.

"Disciple Regulations" is a treasure book of life that must be read by modern people

It can be said that "Disciple Code" is not only a good traditional enlightenment textbook for children, but also an essential guide to conduct norms for modern people, and is a necessary reading of life for modern people.

The 1080-word pamphlet of Disciple Regulations covers the rules we should follow in all aspects of life and should be the first book in our life. In the past, "Disciple Regulations" was the classic of childlike cultivation, but because Chinese traditional culture has broken down for three generations, today should really be the treasure of life that everyone must read.

Although the ancestors are far away, the sacrifice must not be sincere. Although the descendants are foolish, they must not read the scriptures. The traditional education of sages in China can be traced back to 4500 years ago and passed down from generation to generation. In the era of Emperor Wu of the Han Dynasty, Confucianism was officially established as an educational policy. This teaching policy has been maintained until around the 20th century, when China became a semi-colonial and semi-feudal society and was gradually abolished. What does this traditional education, which has always been dominant and beautiful, teach us?

As soon as a person is born, all kinds of relationships naturally arise. In essence, a person's interpersonal relationship is nothing more than a couple, father and son, and the eldest (brother and sister); Externally, they are friends, monarchs and ministers (in current words, the relationship between leaders and leaders), and other relationships are only the extension of these five relationships. Therefore, the monarch and his subjects (upper and lower), father and son, husband and wife, elders and children, and friends are the traditional saying that the five relationships are inherent in human beings, not established by the ancients or someone. They have been the five relationships since ancient times, and no one can get away from them. Since no one can get away from them, they can only think about how to properly handle these relationships. They can't get along with each other.

We should understand that following the five principles of ethics is the foundation of life. If it violates the natural relationship of the five ethics, it will be difficult for people to live in life and the family will not be harmonious; The social order is chaotic and the morality is ruined; The country has lost the humanitarian basis for stability and prosperity. These five natural laws for the normal operation of relations are immutable. They are the science of settling down, which everyone should understand. They are also the world's university questions for maintaining social stability and normality. If these relationships are well handled and harmonious, then his physical and mental health will be very good, and the external interpersonal interaction must also be a virtuous circle. In this way, it will naturally create a good external atmosphere and build a good platform for personal physical and mental development and career development.

Disciple Regulation is a book that teaches us the norms of Wulun Avenue. It is to teach us how to deal with interpersonal relationships fundamentally, so as to achieve what the University says: self-cultivation, family unity, governance, and world peace. Therefore, learning, transforming and implementing the Disciple Code is absolutely beneficial to individuals, families, units, countries and society.

For the study of "Disciple Rules", we advocate cell learning, which is to put these words into every specific action, word and action. Instead of using the brain to learn, it only produces comments and differences, without practical action. The method of "one in-depth and long-term study" is the specific method of learning. It should be read every morning and before going to bed, instead of deliberately understanding the meaning of the text. The time limit is at least 3 months.

The society is not as complex as the outside world and books describe. Learning the Disciple Rules will enable us to better understand and learn the wisdom of sages, and then apply it to our own life. You will realize how simple it is to pursue a happy life!

Learn from time to time, treat yourself and others, private and public, and the benefits are endless. As for the specific content and the actual use, of course, it depends on us to read and study the Disciple Rules carefully before we know it.

Zhuge Changqing wishes all the people in the world who are destined to respect their parents and do good deeds and accumulate virtue, rich and lucky.

(Reference material of this article: online information of Disciple Gui)

父母要带头做好孝道，学好弟子规，是家庭幸福的保障。

---- 诸葛长青

   家庭要幸福，什么是关键？

   家庭幸福的根源，是孝道。

   家庭有孝道，才会和谐。

    如果一个家庭，孝道好，家人们又积极行善积德、多做造福社会的好事儿，那么，这个家庭就是很富贵吉祥的家庭了。

    儒家的《孝经》、《弟子规》，佛教的《地藏本愿经》、道家的《太上感应篇》等都讲了孝道的重要性。

   孝，是家庭的根本。

    孝敬父母的人，才有福报；

    孝敬父母的人，才会事业腾飞。

    当然，那些像默默奉献的边防军人、默默为人民服务的人员等都是大孝，因为他们把自己的孝心扩展到了天下人。他们这是把天下父母看做为自己父母，也是大孝。

   大家看看周围，那些幸福的、有钱的、富贵的人，都是孝道做的好的人。

   诸葛长青认为，家庭里面，做父母的很重要，要带头做好孝道。

   父母做子女的榜样，带头孝敬老人，子女们就跟随学习孝道。

   兄弟姐妹们们相互团结，当好孝顺孩子，也是孝道，父母开心，家庭就会更好。 

   诸葛长青研究传统文化认为，古往今来，所有有成功就的人，都是孝顺家庭出来的。

   古往今来，孝敬父母的人，才会有巨大成绩。

   诸葛长青推荐天下父母，带头学习《弟子规》，带头做好孝道。

    推荐大家看看刘善人、王善人、陈大惠、蔡礼旭、赵老师的书籍、视频，学习孝道重点。多看弟子规、太上感应篇、二十四孝、了凡四训等故事书籍。

   《弟子规》原名《训蒙文》被誉为《童蒙养正宝典》，其前身是宋朝大儒朱熹的《小学》，后来清朝年间的秀才李毓秀吸收《小学》的精华，并以《论语•学而篇》中“弟子入则孝，出则悌，谨而信，泛爱众，而亲仁；行有余力，则以学文”为中心展开阐发，详细列述弟子在家、出外、待人、接物与学习上应该恪守的行为规则，辑成《训蒙文》，后来又经清朝贾存仁改变更名为《弟子规》。

   本书短小精悍，全书共1080字，360句，113件事，三字一句，两句一韵，朗朗上口，是启蒙养正，防邪存诚，养成人格和醇厚家风的最佳读物。他用简短的话把中国传统的家规家训家教集大成概括出来，一个孩子只要把《弟子规》学好，他为人处事、待人接物就有理可循了。
    学习《弟子规》为什么有效呢，就是因为它重视的是德行的教育，是做人的教育，而且它符合道德教育的规律。

  《弟子规》第一章讲“入则孝”，就是教孩子从孝敬父母开始，继而去关爱身边的人，然后去爱国家爱人民，这个顺序才是合情合理的，符合道德教育的。诸葛长青建议大家看看周围，看看那些富贵吉祥的人，多是孝敬父母的人。
   《大学》上有句话特别有道理：“知所先后，则近道矣”，即做任何事情都有先后次序，次序如果颠倒了，结果完全不同。教育的规律首先是道德教育，不是知识和科技的培养。《礼记·学记》上提出“建国君民，教学为先”，在古代的教育体系里，道的教育即做人的教育居于核心的地位，具有重要的意义。

   《弟子规》与《三字经》、《百家姓》等齐名。父母是孩子第一任乃至终身的老师。家长的素质如何直接影响到家长对子女教育和对学校工作的支持程度。良好的家庭教育是少年儿童成长的摇篮，又是学校教育和社会教育的基础，是学校教育的补充，因此家庭中家长的作用是举足轻重的。所以《弟子规》进入家庭十分重要。

 《弟子规》的核心是一个“孝”字，这背后是培养孩子那分爱心、孝心、恭敬心、真心，这是很关键的。诸葛长青建议，当父母的要亲自示范，做好孝道，当好父母的孝顺子女。这样言传身教，自己的子女也就孝顺了。
   把根基扎的牢上加牢。专精结合，持之以恒。一门深入就是抓住《弟子规》，精是精益求精，每次的读诵，每次的讲解，都会有不同的体会。
   真正贯通《弟子规》的人，也一定会治家，企业也是一样，理是一个，理事无碍。
   听《弟子规》要随文入观，要放下自己的观点和见解，要树立对古圣先贤的信心。在听经文的时候，明白自己是学生，要随文入观，要谦虚，永远谦虚，谦受益。
   孩子的第一任老师是家长、父母们，绝不是老师。
   孩子的恭敬心重要，爱心重要，孝心重要。
   先把自己改变了，再去改变你的家庭，改变你的企业，改变你的学校。爱是先幸福自己，后幸福别人；恨是先折磨自己，后折磨别人。世间最赔本的买卖就是恨，世间最不亏本的买卖就是爱，希望我们大家真的有那分爱心，把老师的话，把古圣先贤的话牢记在心，先把自己充实好，再去充实别人。永远要求自己，不要求别人，永远记住身教胜过言教。
   命运的“命”怎么写？上面是个人字，下面一横，底下是叩头的叩，表示人一叩头，命运就改变，命运握在自己手中。但“存好心，说好话，行好事，做好人”，命真的由自己来做，福真的自己来求。叩头是恭敬心，人一叩头，命运全改变了，事业的道路上全都是贵人，真的是恭敬一切人，恭敬一切事，恭敬一切物。
  《弟子规》是家庭教育的根本。

   家庭教育是什么?不是奥数，不是英语，不是请家教，不是辅导资料。家庭教育就是言传身教。以德、孝为本，学会自我管理才是家庭教育的核心。《弟子规》是我们身边的学问，是学习古圣先贤文化教育为人处世的根基，有许多日常行为规范，可指导、引导孩子学习做人的道理。

  《弟子规》光会念、会背不管用，要能做到，每一句都要落实，坚持一生一世;学《弟子规》就像我们盖一栋大楼，这是楼的架构、钢架，学其它经论才是房屋里的装饰陈设。所以学习弟子规要真正相信他的重要，深入理解实实在在去做，不光做表面，大楼构架才能坚固，久垂后世;儒家所讲孩子做人的大道理在《弟子规》里可以建立根基。对于家长和孩子而言，《弟子规》是一种生活秩序指导。
  《弟子规》是现代人必读的人生宝典

   可以说，《弟子规》既是一本很好的儿童传统启蒙教材，同时也是一本现代人必不可少的行为规范指南，是现代人必读的人生宝典。

  《弟子规》1080字的小册子，却涵盖了我们做人的方方面面应遵循做到的规矩，应该成为我们人生的第一本书。过去《弟子规》是童蒙养正的经典，但由于中国传统文化断了3代人了，所以今天实实在在应是每个人必读的人生宝典。

祖宗虽远，祭祀不可不诚。子孙虽愚，经书不可不读。中国传统的圣贤教育，可以追溯到4500年前，代代相传。在汉武帝时代，正式将儒家学说确立为教育政策。这个教学政策一直保持到近二十世纪前后，中国沦为半殖民地半封建社会，逐渐被废除掉。这一直占主导地位、美好的传统教育，究竟教我们什么呢?

   人一出生，就自然产生各种关系，一个人的人际关系，从本质来说，在内，不外是夫妇、父子、长幼(兄弟姐妹);对外，就是朋友、君臣(用现在的话说，就是上下关系，或者说领导与被领导的关系)，其他关系只不过是这五种关系的延伸。因此，君臣(上下)，父子、夫妇、长幼、朋友即传统说法--五伦，是人类固有的相互关系，不是古人或某个人制定的，从古至今都是这五种关系，谁都离不了，既然谁都脱不了干系，只能想办法如何妥善处理好这些关系，不能苟且，也苟且不了。

   我们要明白，顺此五伦之道是做人的根基。如果违背了五伦的自然关系，人就难以立身处世，家庭不和;社会秩序混乱、道德沦丧;国家失去了安定兴盛的人道根本。这五种关系正常运转的自然法则，是永恒不变的，是每个人都应该明了的安身立命之学，也是维系社会安定常态的世间大学问。如果这些关系都处理好，很和谐，那么他个人身心就会很健康，对外的人际关系互动也必定是良性循环，这样，自然就会酿造出良好的外部氛围，为个人身心、事业发展搭好平台。

   《弟子规》就是一部教导我们五伦大道规范的书，是教我们如何从根本上着手，处理好人际关系，以达到《大学》所言:修身、齐家、治国、平天下。所以，学习、转化、落实《弟子规》，对个人、家庭、单位、国家、社会，绝对是百利而无一害。

   对于《弟子规》的学习，我们提倡用细胞学习，就是要把这些文字内容落实到具体的每一个动作、言行中。而拒绝用大脑去学习，只产生评论和分别，没有实际行动。“一门深入，长时熏习”的方法，是学习的具体方法，要做到每日早晨和睡前诵读一遍，而不要刻意去理解文中的意思。时间至少以3个月为限。

   社会没有外界和书本所描述的那么复杂，学习《弟子规》，让我们能更好的理解学习圣贤的智慧，从而应用在自己的生活中，您就会体会到原来追求幸福人生如此的简单!

   学而时习之，对己对人，于私于公，好处无穷。至于具体内容与真实受用，当然是有赖于我们去详看细习《弟子规》之后方才知道了。

     诸葛长青祝福天下孝敬父母、行善积德的有缘者，富贵吉祥。

    （本文参考资料：弟子规网络资料）

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Introduction to Zhuge Changqing: Zhuge Changqing, the inheritor and promoter of traditional Chinese culture, is willing to "learn from sages, promote virtue, revitalize China and benefit the world" together with people with the same ideals in the world.

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Zhuge Changqing's Chinese Dream

Learn from sages and carry forward virtue

Revitalizing China for the benefit of the world

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诸葛长青简介：诸葛长青，中国国学传统文化传承弘扬者，愿与天下志同道合者一起“学习圣贤、弘扬善德、振兴中华、造福世界”。

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1The wisdom of traditional Chinese culture changes the destiny: filial piety to parents+five in one+self-improvement

1 国学智慧改命运：孝敬父母+五合一+自强不息

2Zhuge Changqing's Three Golden Keys to Changing Destiny

2诸葛长青改命运三把金钥匙诸葛长青施食仪轨 （十五步简洁版）

3Zhuge Changqing's Greeting Ritual (15 Steps Concise Version)

3 诸葛长青施食仪轨 （十五步简洁版）

4How to repent: the ritual of repentance and the method of repentance (full version)

4   如何忏悔：忏悔仪轨忏悔方法（完整版）

5How to read the Dizang Sutra: Methods for reciting Dizang Sutra (complete version)

5 如何念地藏经：念地藏经仪轨方法（完整版）

6How to release? The ritual of releasing life

6怎样放生？放生仪轨

7Zhuge Changqing's Repentance Culture: A Case Study of Repentance Methods for Changing Destiny

7诸葛长青忏悔文化：改变命运忏悔方法案例

8Free Life Culture: Free Life Culture in Ancient China

8放生文化：中国古代的放生文化

9Shocking photo of feeding: Buddha, Bodhisattva and Dharma Protector come to the scene

9施食震撼照片：佛菩萨护法神亲临现场

10Feeding Rite Return: the return is changed to simple return

10施食仪轨回向：回向修改为简洁回向